I feel like i'm a bad mother, do you think i am?

Posted on 12. Apr, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

My husband and I just turned 20 years old this month. Our son is 11 months old. He gets into everything even the things he’s not supposed to like the laptop computer, tv cords,play with the lamp on the table in the living room. Then he fights sleep every day and night, he wants me to be around or hold him all day every day.

Everyday I’m stressed out, and sad to say this but I end up yelling at him, like today My son and I were in my room and he was playing at the door and i was telling him not to play with it and then he slipped and bumped his head on the floor, then I went to go pick him up I was hugging him when i yelled if you’ll listen to me then you wouldn’t get hurt. He stopped crying so I put him back down, then he was pulling at the cord of his baby monitor and I told him no and he kept doing it then i yelled I said no.

Then the lady in the downstairs apt came and knocked on our door, she talked to my husband i heard her say that yelling at that baby is ridiculous and that we needed a brake, and if we need anything to go to her apt, and she said that she needs her sleep because she works overnight.

I understand where she’s coming from but they downstairs are noisy everyday keeping my son awake, she’s always yelling at her kids and husband, then she has room to tell us to keep it down when i have called the landlord on them i don’t know how many times because they wouldn’t shut up.

I know what i’m doing is wrong, I just get so mad at him to where i dont know what to do and i’m the only one who takes him.

I feel like i’m a bad mother, i don’t want to be a bad mother i love my baby and would do anything for him, i dont want to be called a bad mother, it’s just i don’t know how to controll my anger.

I have a lot of issues going on in my life right now and thats mainly the reason for my anger.

Can you all please give me adivce?

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Are Ottlite lamps really that special/superior to conventional fluorescent light?

Posted on 06. Apr, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

Would this one be good for reading?

http://cgi.ebay.com.au/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=250729543895&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT

I’ve read a lot on the Internet about "full spectrum" lighting being a marketing term that doesn’t mean much.

A basic fluorescent lamp that looks the same can be purchased at Office Works for .

I live in Melbourne, Australia.

Any recommendations for a good quality desk reading lamp would also be appreciated.

I want the light to be as "natural" and daylight like as possible to minimise sleep disturbance which is apparently caused by bright artificial lights.

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MJ fans would you like to read a scenario?

Posted on 10. Mar, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

The year is 2006 You are at least 18 (or 21)
You are taking a short vacation in Las Vegas.You are staying in this beautiful 5 star hotel room.You have been up all day from travel so you decide to shower and get in bed. You get out the shower and wrap a towel around your body admire your self in the mirror. etc. You slip on a cute nightgown . You sit on the bed and think to yourself wow this comforter is so nice. You get under the blankets and watch a few episodes of your favourite show. Starting to get sleepy you turn off the T.V and drift off to sleep.

1 hour later
You wake up to hear someone jiggling your doorknob. At first your frightened but the you remember you locked the door and no one else has a key besides the people in the checkout office.
* The door opens* your heart jumps you can see the silhouette of some standing by your door. You grab a random object * jump out of bed screaming * The person screams also.

Who, who are you ? What are you doing in my room you ask nervously ? You turn around to turn on one of the lamps, While you are still turned away you hear a confused voice say. " I’m Michael Jackson and this is my room."
You look at him in disbelief. Sorry for startling you ..maybe I had the wrong room number.Michael say’s bringing out his hotel receipt and key card. *looks at it* It says room 1110 and this is room 1110 . Okay well maybe I have the wrong room you say grabbing your receipt and key card it also room 1110.
You and Michael look at each other and you can’t help but giggle.
Michael then look at you with the most sincere tone he says .
You should have locked the bolt also .. I could have been anyone a lady like you should pay attention to her security a little more.
I know but…*you trail off* I’ll call the hotel office.

It’s 1: 45 and the office closed at 1:10 MJ replies as he sits on the chair next to the bed.

What are you going to do now?

Keep it yahoo answers appropriate

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What can I do about this shadow ghost that is around me?

Posted on 27. Feb, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

After my grandfather died, there was this shadow ghost that started appearing around me many times, left me clues of its presence like a moved object or knock, etc. My mom had a few apparitions in her apartment of the same ghost. Her husband took a picture of it and there is not any type of light change or any persin in the way. This shadow ghost is neutral. It doesn’t want to attack or anything, but it constantly is around me and them. Its just a figure like a person but floating. One time I had went to sleep and woke up the next morning to find out my office lamp had moved to a downward position. I told my sister about it and when I went to check out the lamp and my niece and nephew was standing in front of me, I saw the same ghost in glimpses move past them and the smoke detector went off with a dead battery in it. But mainly this ghost is always around me since he died. Im wondering what does this mean. Does he have a message or communication or what is it. What I am asking is what can I do to make it go away or should I confront it with GOD?

If anyone would like to know more of the things that go on around me with this shadow ghost, feel free to leave an email address and you will be contacted and I will also include a photo of the figure. Thankyou.

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I think my house is haunted, I really need some advice.?

Posted on 19. Feb, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

My house is over a 100 years old. Ive been living here all my life. My mom always tells me when I was a little girl I was always scared to sleep alone and night and slept with her in her bed till I was 10. And even then, I thought it was haunted. I know your probably thinking Im making this whole thing up but I swear Im not. I really need advice.
About 10 years ago my grandfather and grandmother were really sick, in this house. A few days later they died, but not here.

Well here are some things that happen:
In my mothers room, she has a lamp that you need to touch to turn on. Every day, it turns on and off by itself. Today just a couple hours ago, I walked in and it turned on by itself and I was about 2 feet away from it.

My mom tells me stories about seeing her father after he died. She says she has spoken to him too.

My mother told me a story of when I was about 2 years old and she was trying to put me to sleep. and she heard heavy footsteps but knew it was only her and I. She waited but nothing ever happened. And it wasnt just her because even I sat up when I heard the noise.

In my basement, you hear and feel unsafe and you feel as if your being watched the whole time.

At night, doors open and close by themselves. Keep in mind, its winter. So no windows are ever open.

Once I was laying in bed with my phone by me I heard a loud clicking and looked at my phone and someone or something was typing numbers. I froze and couldnt move.

I have had things fly at me before from my desk.

I see shadows a lot.

when I was 15, I had a sleep over for my birthday, when I went to the bathroom my friends said the closet slammed shut. I believed them cause it has happened to me too.

My puppy that is over a year old refuses to enter a few rooms. He also barks at nothing in the room, but still doesnt walk into the room. At the randomest times, he gets very aggressive and starts biting and barking, which is unusual for my dog.

Sometimes the lights fail to turn on. You can change the light bulbs and the lights refuse to turn on, but only in one room.

Mine and my father’s laptop both shut off at exactly the same time.

My fan starts spinning by itself.

My things go missing and appear a few hours/days later.

Sometimes you hear voices.

When my cat was still alive, she would just sit there and not move for hours but her eyes were open.

I get random marks on my pencils.

A couple months ago, I woke up with bright red scratches on my arms.

Sometimes the electronics won’t turn on (microwave, toaster, etc)

I have been pushed down the stairs before.

My 3 year old niece screamed and told me someone was talking to her.

My 7 year old niece is scared to be left alone at all in my house.

Thats pretty much everything.. Please I really need help and I have no idea what to do . My whole family are very religious and strong Catholics. We get our house blessed every year. Our house has been recently blessed a week ago. I really need some help other than "get a priest."

Please. I could really use your help. I really need it. Thank you.
I would say the thing about the sensitive lamp is right, but, if you stand right next to it, the closest you can get without touching it, it does not turn on.

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How do you get rid of unwanted spirits…?

Posted on 14. Feb, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

ok..i’m just wondering, cause just last night i played my ouija board…
and i brought an unwanted spirit in here, and it wont exactly leave…
i said bye to it, and it went to "No" …i seriously don’t know what to do, it been doing creepy stuff all this time since one in the morning.. i could not sleep. and no one was home, i was scared alone. cause my friend got scared and ditch me..and like last night, it broke a lamp, like i was on the computer…and i heard something fall, and it was the fken lamp..and like it was throwing stuff at me…making stuff fall.. turning lights on and off…and i had a cross by me, and it like made that go flying off the computer desk. and no this isn’t no lie for all the people who thinks i’m lieing. I’m NOT. i’m so damn tired…just cause i was so terrified, couldn’t sleep, and i was crying, cause of all the noise…and it wont leave my house!! UGH> it’s pissing me off.. i just wanna go and yell "GET THE FK OUTTA MY HOUSE YOUR NOT WANTED IN HERE." but i’m to scared to cause it might like hurt me or something….HELP!?! PLEASE ASAP!!

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Where should I start in terms of changing my sleeping and eating/exercise habits?

Posted on 07. Feb, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

Well first a little background information.

I’m 18, I live on campus at UC Santa Cruz. Pretty typical Freshman. I have a couple issues though, things I’d like to change.

Last quarter, I had classes at 8 in the morning…which I periodically slept through. I had a roommate who was a night owl and I found that it was super hard for me to sleep while she was on her computer, desk lamp on etc. so usually I would sleep somewhere in the neighborhood of 1 and 3 AM, sometimes later. Not healthy, I know.
My roommate has since moved out, but before I knew she was moving I made it my mission to get around the problem of sleeping through my class by scheduling all of mine to be after 10 AM. Well, my "early days" now begin at 12:30 and my late days are basically one class that goes from 4:00 PM to 5:45 PM.
Since starting this new schedule and with my roommate out, I’ve found myself going the other way and staying up even *later*. One ridiculous morning, I was up UNTIL 8 AM writing an essay, then went to bed at 8 AM. This was on my late days. But I know that I’m crabbier if I wake up after a certain time. I don’t *want* to wake up so late, but when I go to bed so late it’s difficult to get out of bed before 11 on my early days, 1 to 1:30 when I don’t have class or on one of my late days. I’ve told myself I need to go to bed earlier but it just never happens. I’ve even found that I can’t get myself started on writing assignments until like 2 or 3 AM. This isn’t good.

I also made a new year’s resolution to spend at least an hour outside each day. …well, I’m out of my *room* for an hour each day, but the idea was kind of to be outside maybe exercising or just strolling around campus for that hour, instead of sitting inside my friend’s rooms or the dining hall chilling or doing homework. UCSC’s campus is a pain in the ass to walk around, though, with hills abound and heavily wooded areas that are kind of creepy to walk around in alone.

And on top of that my eating habits are like WTF! Some days I skimp like an anorexic child and others I seem to orbit around the cookies and brownies.

Where do I start? I know I need to get myself more regulated so that I can be healthier, but I just don’t know where or how to begin.
PS my BMI is about 24, and I would like to get it to 22. I’m 5 foot 6 or so and I have no idea what I weigh, but it’s around or over 150 pounds. I really want to get fit and lose some of this poundage. And specifically my thighs make me really self-conscious.

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My 2 kittens love lights directly on them???!?

Posted on 23. Jan, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

I have 3 kitties. 1 is almost a year, 1 is 4 months, and 1 is 2 1/2 months. The 2 young kittens like to sit on top of my computer tower right underneath or near the desk lamp when its on… If i turn it off, they will meow for me to put it on and then either take turns laying there, or curl up together and sleep with it directly on them..

My fiance jokes around and says they are "sun bathing", or "tanning". that is exactly what it looks like too!…. Like they are just basking away in the "sun" lol!

it is funny and cute, I at first though it was just a quiet place for them to sleep and they liked that, but I am realizing now that it is in fact the lamp.

The 2 1/2 month old kitten does it more than the 4 month old, but they both do it. They sometimes even fight for the spot lol! Right now my 2 1/2 month old kitty is laying under it and sleeping away. If i turned it off, he’d get up and sleep somewhere else, like on the bed or his their cat tower.. so that is how I know it is the lamp.

Question… Is this weird?? Normal?? why do they like the light so much??? my almost 1 year old kitty doesn’t care about it at all and I never see her doing it.

My fiance says it has something to do with how kittens can’t control their body temperature like newborn babies can’t??. they like to feel warm because when they were with their mother and litter mates, that is how it felt…

Is he right?

thanks!
sorry for a few typos.

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should it worry me that turning on my desk lamp wakes up my computer..?

Posted on 08. Jan, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

I have one wall plug socket which I’ve got 4 plugs extended from, in them I’ve got: phone charger, ipod charger, lamp and laptop.

If I press Sleep on the laptop, I can wake it up but flicking the lamps in-line power switch(on the wire) – sohuld this worry me??
"clayjar": but don’t you think it’s worrying that the lamps interfering with the laptop?
"An American": They’re not charging atm but I’ll try that, thanks (I thought what you said too)

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schizophrenia?

Posted on 07. Jan, 2011 by Lighting Expert.

at 20 years old i was going through a time in my life when i was very stressed out and suffered from panic disorder. this was late 2006. I managed to come across a movie with an actor that had passed away over a decade earlier. it made me upset..but i became completely obsessed with this actor. i changed my life to be more like they were..most of 2007 was spent at 21..slipping into hallucinations and such. i wasnt eating right..and i started to connect with this actor more and more. at first it seemed like nothing to me..just an actor that died and it was sad..as anything of this nature would be but i became out of control. he was all i thought of..it was okay up until april 2007 when i started hallucinating him and talking to him. very scary but felt very real. then i became suicial and depressed..slept all day…this lasted until about december 2007..the hallcinations were horrible. i was lost in a greiving state but also an unhealthy obsessive state of mind..i thought weird thoughts i saw things that realted to him and things that made no sense it took time for me to realize it was all in my mind…but this wasnt until the problem was so out of control i was screaming and crying because i saw things all day. now im 22…in college and stable. i do not obsess over the actor and it is as if it never happened. i cant recall what state of mind i was actually in at the time..but the visions were awful. i still see things from time to time..sleep with a lamp on..always..but i know its in my mind..what should i do? should i talk to a therapist or get some medication if it becomes full blown again? this is the worst thing ive ever gone through..even as a fultime student i saw some weird things while out or in class..or while driving altho its disappeared for the most past im still frightened..and most of all appauled at my behavior..

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